| Monday, May 07, 2007 |
| Change of Address |
Hey crazy kids! How are you all? Is life being kind?
I've decided to be a bit random and change blog addresses. If you're interested in continuing to read my mundane ramblings, chuck an email my way and I'll send ya the new link.
jakwalena at hotmail dot com
Cheers! |
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| Thursday, April 26, 2007 |
| boys boys boys |
After more than a year and a half of singledom - of pretty much no interest from boys beyond a random pash or a casual fling here and there - I've finally met someone really nice who really wants to be with me.. cos he likes me. This is quite a revelation for me. Someone actually likes me in a number of different ways and wants to be in a relationship... blows my mind!
So you can understand that my mind is spinning, when I tell you that since meeting Mr Newlove, not one but two other boys have expressed their interest in persuing a relationship with me. WHAAAAAT?!
And it was only since telling them that I've met someone new. The first boy in question is Boy #1 from my previous online dating experience who I'd seen a few times but it never went beyond a casual thing. I was chatting to him on MSN and mentioned Mr Newlove and all of a sudden Boy #1 was talking about how he'd always felt we had a connection and did I think it was serious with Mr Newlove? cos he'd really like to take me out again some time. He kept pushing it, saying he'd thought from the start that we'd be great together, and he made me promise I'd consider it.
The second boy in question was a friend of mine who I've never blogged about before (because he's completely insignificant in my mind!). I was also chatting to him on MSN and mentioned Mr Newlove when all of a sudden he came out with questions like "How come you and I never got together?", "How about we go see a movie on the weekend?" and "Make sure you give me a call if things don't work out with Mr Newlove".
Bizzare! Now that I'm unavailable I'm suddenly more attractive to the opposite sex!
Anyway, none of that matters since Mr Newlove and I are getting more and more serious.. I've seen him every day since I got back from Melbourne and the more time I spend with him, the more I like him... I keep discovering all these little details which I love (like he's so domesticated! he cooks and cleans and irons) and we're becoming more relaxed around each other so the gentle teasing and mucking around has started. My fave part of a new relationship :) The things that bothered me at the beginning are now almost entirely insignificant, and he's so into me in every way which just makes my self esteem skyrocket. I'm definitely on to a good thing.
Internet dating, huh? Would woulda thunk it? |
| posted by Jac @ 12:27 PM |
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| Wednesday, April 18, 2007 |
| brutal honesty |
I have a bit of a history of lying in relationships. My first love was built upon some fairly sizeable lies, and I haven't been entirely honest about some things in relationships that followed. I decided a long time ago that my next relationship was going to be entriely open and honest - no secrets, no lies.
So now that next relationship is developing, and I'm beginning to wonder just how honest I should be. Is there such a thing as being too honest?
Take, for example, the issue of your number of sexual partners. Mr Newlove and I haven't had that discussion yet, but I know he has just recently come out of a 4 year relationship (he's only 23) and he's mentioned before that he'd never have a one night stand. That says to me that his number is considerably low.
Mine, however, is considerably high. For a girl of my age.
Should I be worried about that? Would he be freaked out? Offended? Disgusted? Would it make him feel inadequate or self conscious? Would it make him view me differently? Would it be better for me to lower the number and soften the blow?
And if I do tell him the truth, do I have to justify myself? Do I have to explain how I'm a massive flirt, how I drink too much and lose my inhibitions, how I seek affirmation from random people I don't know...
Would it be such a bad thing to stretch the truth a little on this one? Would I feel bad about it later?
It's not that I'm ashamed of my past and the things I've done, but everyone views these things differently. I'd be happy to be open and honest about this if I knew he'd be ok with it. But is it worth telling the truth if it's going to cause problems?
Help me out, people - I need opinions! |
| posted by Jac @ 7:15 PM |
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| Sunday, April 15, 2007 |
| fun, frivolity and farewells! |
*WARNING* This post may contain a whole lot of wanky sentimental crap which might make you groan and/or possibly revisit your last meal. I apologise in advance - it has to be done!
I can quite easily say that I'm yet to meet a blogger who isn't fabulous in one way or another. There must be something about blogging that attracts the most fun people. Either that, or I'm only friends with the great ones... yeah, come to think of it, that's probably it.
A nice little story-book account of dinner with the blog girls on Wednesday can be found over here. Because I'm lazy, I'm just going to post a few pics and let y'all know that a great time was had by all! I particularly loved meeting Bee and Shona who instantly won me over in their different ways.  Bee is gentle and unassuming yet delightfully interesting with a quick wit and a comfortable vibe. Talking with her made me feel really.. well, comfortable! I love the way she's so switched on and she comes in with the funniest/most poignant things in such a subtle way. Great girl :) Brooke and Shona - Shona has a delighfully wicked sense of humour and a really familiar way about her. There's nothing pretentious about that girl, what you see is what you get! Top marks, Shona! Phil and I - it has been said many times, but god help the world when Phil and I are together! What a champ :) Beautiful girl.  The very amusing waiter/owner of the Italian restaurant where we ate chocolate pizzas... he took my camera behind the bar, pretending to be taking 'inappropriate' photos, and returned with this!!  Me and Jadey - another new friend, and a very fun girl!
So skip a few days ahead and Friday night found all of us together again (plus a few more) at Phil's farewell drinks. And this is where it starts to sound suss because once again I have to go on a few tangents about all my new girl crushes! I finally got to spend some quality time with Beck (who I'd only met fleetingly beforehand) and I'm so completely in love with her. I also got to (finally) meet Linda who is just so gorgeous, Kate who cracks me up to no end, Sassy (Cynthia) who's genuinely beautiful and, well, SASSY, and Ash who has incredible style and an endearing demeanor.
 Girl crush #1 - Bee
 Girl crush #2 - Linda - gentle and genuine. A lovely girl :)  Girl crush # 3 - Beckie - beautiful, hilarious, feisty. She feels like a bit of a mentor, to be honest! I look forward to getting to know her better in times to come.  Girl crush #4 - Brooke (and Miles..) I can't begin to tell you how much I love this girl. When we first met back in December I was instantly drawn to her and thought she as delightful and sweet and smart.. but as I get to know her better I'm discovering all these quirky, funny, witty, endearing elements to her personality that surprise and impress me! I love love love her :D  Girl crush #5 and boy crush#1 - Philippa and her cousin Luke. Luke and I had a nice chat throughout the night - he's charming and sweet. Full marks again! My camera stayed in my bag when we moved onto the next place, so I missed out on all the frivolous photos! Rest assured there'll be some classics pop up on Phil's blog within the next few days... There was definitely a bit of debauchery going on that night!
 A great pic of the whole gang (minus Ash). God knows what we were all laughing at, but I can guarantee those smiles rarely left our faces the whole night. Once again, I'm feeling too lazy for any sort of chronological recap of the night.. I'm sure at least one of the other girls will fill you in if you're feeling shortchanged - go check 'em out! God knows I've done enough hyper-linking in this post to last me a lifetime.
So even though there's roughly 9 days until Phil leaves Melbourne and even longer until she leaves the country, now's a fitting time to officially say Farewell, good friend! You've got an amazing journey ahead of you. No one knows exactly what adventures await you, but we can say for certain that you'll meet them head on with a heart full of determination and joy, with all your grace and humility and with a pen (and a keyboard!) poised ready to record it all ;) Best of luck - we'll miss you! xxoo
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| posted by Jac @ 12:39 AM |
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| Tuesday, April 10, 2007 |
| South Again |
Well here I am in Sunny Melbourne (and yes, I can call it that - the sun has been hotter than BrisVegas these last few days!).
So far a lot of TV has been watched, chocolate has been consumed, bargain shopping has been done and hair has been dyed. In other words, it's like I never left Brisbane!
I always have these conflicts when I come to Melbs about spending time with friends vs. spending time with family. Mum just wants me to be available 24 hours a day so we can talk and play cards and drink wine (which is great!) but then I have at least three different groups of friends who call and sms every ten minutes with requests to 'catch up'.
The bad thing about this is I hate to organise social outings. I just want someone to say "meet me here at this time and we'll do this" and I'd be more than happy to oblige. But it very rarely works that way.
Add to this the two rather large assignments I have to complete before the week is out and suddenly there's very little time to breathe!
Having said that, I'm looking forward to hanging out with multiple bloggers at Phil's farewell on Friday, and fingers crossed we'll be doing something else spectacular together at some point... (picnic at hanging rock, anyone?). I've got lunch plans with some school friends for tomorrow, a night out at Cherry on Thursday, my brother's birthday dinner on Sunday... And it'll be a mad rush to finish my uni work in between those times.
Meanwhile, I've been chatting to Mr NewLove every day and we've had a couple of in depth discussions about what we want and where we're headed and the like and we've both decided we're going to take it easy and see what happens. No use rushing into anything. He's great in so many ways, but I do have my reservations - I mean, no one's perfect.. and I think I need to let go of that idea that I am going to find that elusive perfect guy. I have to take the good with the bad and weigh up what's more important! But I am missing his delectable kisses ;) *collective groan*
I'm gonna go stuff myself with more chocolate. Laterz! |
| posted by Jac @ 2:19 PM |
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| Friday, April 06, 2007 |
| Updates! |
What a crazy week.
I've been procrastinating and studying in equal amounts, pulled a couple of all nighters at uni, and I've finally handed in my last assignment... (until next week. D'oh!). I don't have that usual "assignments all finished" after-glow, though, because I am totally disappointed with the effort I made on the last one. It was fairly straight forward and well within my genious, but I kept stuffing around and just couldn't be bothered, so the final result was completely half arsed!
But hey - s'all done. I'm relieved.
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The other interesting bit of news to share (and I've been um-ing and ah-ing over whether to post about it) is that I've met someone...
Last week I decided to give the whole online dating thing another whirl, and after a week of the usual disappointing interest (why do I always hear from the nerdiest guys?!), I got an email from someone kinda interesting.
So we've met a couple of times, and today we spent all day together doing absolutely nothing. And it was great :)
It's the strangest thing, we just clicked from word go. There was no akwardness (strange for me, cos I'm the epitome of akward) and we're just really compatible in so many ways.
So I'm walking around with a smile on my face. It's early days, but hey... looks promising!
And the weirdest part? He has the same name as my 'love-of-my-life' Ex, who is currently going out with a girl named Jac. Does anyone else think that is more than a little bizzare?!
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Oh, and in other news, remember how I told my new employers during my interview that I could juggle? (And I definitely cant!)
Turns out they planned the entire vacation care as a Circus theme based entirely around my juggling abilities, and were expecting me to deliver the goods. THANK GOD I'm going to Melbourne and wont be here for vacation care!! I really dodged a bullet with that one!'
And now some other lucky bugger gets to learn to juggle ;) |
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| Saturday, March 31, 2007 |
| stupid mistake #3256 |
Lesson I've learnt today:
When a prep kid tells you needs to go to the toilet, he means it!
Nothing makes you feel more guilty than making a kid wait and then returning to find he's 'had an accident'! The worst part was he said to me very matter of factly "My mummy says that when I feel that I need to go, that I should tell a teacher straight away". Which is exactly what he did! And I dismissed him!
Oh the guilt!
Luckily he wasn't too fussed and he had a change of clothes (quite miraculous really - perhaps in anticipation of events such as these?).
Another amusing prep kid complained to me that another boy hurt his "ankle bone" whilst clutching at his forearm.
Kids say the darndest things! |
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